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 There's a moment every year when the trees begin to let go.

Not with drama, not with resistance. Just a quiet yielding—leaves loosening their grip, fluttering earthward with no fight. In this falling, there’s no failure. Only a deep intelligence. A trust in the cycle.

As autumn arrives, we’re invited into the same surrender.

But for many of us—especially those with trauma, hyper-independence, or nervous systems wired for alert—yielding can feel like a threat.

To yield is to soften. To stop ...

I have always been reaching for something I could not have.

First, it was my mother.

She existed, but only in the margins of my life, a ghost pressed between sealed records and the hushed voices of adults who decided what was best. I was placed in new arms, and they told themselves I would never notice the absence, as if love could be reassigned like a change of address.

But I noticed. I have spent my whole life noticing.

Later, it was nature.

I love nature the way a child loves a mother th...

Here’s the thing about relationships. They’re messy. They’re beautiful, but they are often messy. And in this world, this fast-moving, judgmental world, we’ve been taught a lot about how to exit a relationship, how to cut people off, how to draw a hard line in the sand and say, “No more. I’m done.” What we aren’t often taught is how to stay — how to repair what’s broken when the rupture happens, and how to heal.

And trust me, it will happen. I wish I could tell you otherwise, but the truth is, ...

What is Complex Developmental Trauma?

Complex developmental trauma (C-PTSD) refers to the long-term effects of chronic, repeated exposure to trauma during critical developmental stages, typically in childhood. Unlike a single traumatic event (such as a car accident), complex trauma often involves ongoing experiences like emotional neglect, physical or emotional abuse or neglectful caregiving over an extended period. These repeated adversities disrupt the normal development of emotional, psychol...

Burnout doesn’t just happen overnight. It often results from repeated violations of our boundaries – sometimes by others, sometimes by ourselves. When we’ve spent years ignoring the signals our body gives us, saying “yes” when we really mean “no,” or taking on too much to keep the peace, our nervous system can spiral into exhaustion. From a Somatic Experiencing® (SE) perspective, the path to reclaiming vitality and sovereignty begins with re-establishing our connection to the body and learning t...

Sandplay Therapy for Adults:  A Powerful Tool for Healing and Transformation

When people think of Sandplay Therapy, they may picture children building castles, digging moats and playing with toys in a sandtray. While it’s true that Sandplay is a powerful tool for helping children process emotions and experiences, this modality is not just for kids. In fact, Sandplay can be profoundly transformative for adults, offering a unique and non-verbal way to access and heal deep layers of the psyche tha...